Véletlenül figyeltem fel erre a hölgyeményre a YouTube-on, akit az internet már úgynevezett "truthbomb Mom"-ként tart számon, és túlzás nélkül állíthatom, ez a nő nagyon nagy arc! Az esze a helyén van, szerintem, a szíve meg persze a száján! :) Tetszik, ahogy a rohanó világunkban Ő mer szemben úszni az árral és nyíltan vállalja, hogy számára nem mások elvárásai állítják fel a prioritásokat. Az egyik számomra legélvezetesebb eszmefuttatásából készítettem számotokra egy LISTENING FELADATot, amelyben azt fejtegeti, mi vitte rá arra a régen halogatott, felháborító , roppant nehéz dilemmát és lelkiismeretfurdalást okozó, egyben hatalmas sikerélménnyel járó tettre, hogy végre NEM-et merjen mondani.
A hiányos szöveget (12 gaps=12 words) egészítsétek ki a poszt alján található videó meghallgatásának segítségével ! Have fun!
You guys, I said "NO" today - to an adult! A nice adult, who was asking me to __________(1) to yet another 'thing'. See, over the years, I've gotten sucked into committing to so many 'things' that I didn't have time or energy for, but while I planned on saying no, when my opened my mouth, my vocal cords __________(2) me, and I came "Yees, of course! I'd love to..!" But not today! Today, I said "NO"!
The nice adult asked "Hey, Kristina, can you help us with this event by doing such and such and such and such and such?", and I said "No, thank you so much for thinking of me and asking me, but NO."
Now, this is where I pretend that you are __________(3) me. You have leaped out of you seats giving me a standing ovation, you are cheering, you are screaming my name, you are throwing flowers on stage at me, you are possibly even throwing your undergarments at me, because you are __________(4) of how hard it is to ignore the guilt and the pressure and just say "NO". Especially, when the people asking are really nice people with really good __________(5)...but I did it! I said "NO".
Saying that "NO" was kind of like the first time I tried sushi. I was nervous about it, it was __________(6) but then once I took a bite of that spicy tuna roll, I was like "WOW! That is amazing in my mouth!" That's how that "NO" tasted in my mouth: AMAZING. And I will be trying it again, and again.
Now, in my opinion, "NO" is a full __________(7). It does not require comma or a 'because', it is just beautiful on its own. But regardless, I will tell you why I finally said "NO":
NO, because I am at my limit.
NO, because my __________(8) is full. Full, like this full. Not full like this full. If I'd wanted my plate to be this full, I would have had like 38 more children. But I'm good with this.
NO, because I refuse to live in constant busyness AND I refuse to __________(9) to the glorification of constant busyness. You know what you should put on a pedestal instead of busyness? REST! Rest __________(10) to be put on a pedestal!
NO, because yes, without even more stress to my already stressed-out life, and then I may __________(11) take that stress out on my children, or my husband. Because, let's be honest: the easiest targets are the people closest to us. Not good.
NO, because it finally clicked for me that saying "NO" doesn't make me a bad person, or a selfish person, or a BITCH. And if you think it does, still "NO".
NO, because me being emotionally and mentally healthy is way more important than me being liked by everyone.
And NO, because having at least ten minutes a day to sit with my feet up, eating carbs and doing seemingly absolutely nothing important is actually very important. And way __________(12) in our culture.
So, thank you so much for asking.. but "NO".
No, no, "NO"!
/Better Dental Care by J.F. Taintor/
COOKING & TASTING VOCABULARY
As with William and Kate's wedding, this pregnancy will be played out both on a private and a very public stage. It was the great unsaid. As one historian put it, the first "duty and ambition" of someone in the duchess' position was to produce an heir. Marriages and births are crucial to the very survival of the ancient institution. When the baby is born, Prince Harry's importance reduces and he relinquishes the position of third-in-line to the throne. Even if it's a girl, the government is insistent she will be head of state of Britain and, as things stand, 15 other countries where the Queen still reigns. The law will be changed, they say, to ensure she would not be overtaken by any younger brother. The hope in royal circles will be that the future of the monarchy has now been secured for another generation.
/Adapted from BBC News/
ÍME, A KIHAGYOTT MONDATOK:
A) It seems she has been looking for a new life for a while and that Brad just doesn't fit in.
B) That was especially true in 2013 when Jolie underwent a preventive double mastectomy , and again in 2015 when a high cancer risk led her to remove her ovaries and fallopian tubes.
C) His approach is: 'I'm gonna do what's best for my family.'
D) "A few months in I realized, 'God, I can't wait to get to work,'" Jolie said of filming Mr. & Mrs Smith with Pitt in Rome.
E) A few days ago, after months of mounting tensions, Jolie told her husband of two years - and a partner of 12 - that she wanted a divorce.
F) Irreconcilable differences: check. Joint legal custody of their children: check.
MOST PEDIG KERESD MEG, MELYIK ELEM HONNAN MARADT KI!
This is not how either Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie wanted their marriage to end. [___1___] "She sat down , talked to Brad and offered to file [for divorce] together," says a source close to the actress. "She said, 'This is what I'd like to do.' She explained everything. Angelina did what she felt she needed to do." For his part Pitt knew his marriage was in trouble, and he'd been in counseling "to try to figure out how to make things better" for the couple's six kids, says a source in Pitt's circle. He "begged her to press pause" - not so they could reconcile, but so they could prepare their children for the massive upheaval to come, says the Pitt source: "He was willing to do anything, change any habit, change any lifestyle, to do what had to be done to make this work. And by 'make this work,' that means doing what has to be done to make even a split one that is amicable and in the best interests of the children."
But time was up. On Sept. 19 the 12-year Hollywood fairy tale known around the world as Brad & Angelina - both stars privately chafed at their popular Brangelina nickname - ended with 28 checked boxes in a divorce petition filed in Los Angeles by Jolie. [___2___] In the box beside "physical custody," Jolie checked only herself, with "visitation" for Pitt, and she did not request spousal support. She signed her name in two places - including the "Pitt" she took after the couple's wedding in 2014 - and the court clerk stamped the document case No. BD646058. "I am very saddened by this, but what matters most now is the well-being of our kids," Pitt, 52, said in a statement to Magazine*, while Jolie, 41, said, "This decision was made for the health of the family." Of course, "both Brad and Angelina care very much about their kids," says the source in Pitt's circle, " and there is sadness on both sides."
Sadness, yes, and also shock. The split marks a sudden unhappy-ever-after for a couple who had ranked as the 21st century version of Bogie and Bacall, Taylor and Burton, Hepburn and Tracy: two wildly glamorous Oscar winners at the top of their game, showing off their sex appeal and chemistry with effortless ease on hundreds of red carpets. Theirs was an on-set romance that blossomed into the robust real life with their six kids: Maddox, 15, Pax, 12, Zahara, 11, Shiloh, 10, and 8-year-old twins Knox and Vivienne. "If you ask any of the kids about us, I feel like they'd say, 'Let's talk about how Mommy and Daddy are so uncool. That Daddy makes better pancakes than Mommy," Jolie told Magazine* in 2014. "We spend so much time at home that the film aspect is a fun part of our lives, but it's a small part."
In recent months that home life had become increasingly fraught. Sources on both sides acknowledge that the two stars can be challenging to live with. "Brad is not a saint," says the Pitt source and "Angelina is absolutely no angel," says the insider. "She has a complicated pesonality and can be difficult to deal with - she has always been very extreme." Things took a turn for the worse, sources say, sometime after the couple's 2014 wedding - during which "we committed our lives to the children," Jolie said. "Since they got married, Angelina has changed a lot," says the insider. "She wants something more than being an actress and director. She wants to be more involved with the United Nations and her missions." Earlier this year, adds the insider, "she seemed troubled and almost depressed. Angelina said she was just bored. [___3___]
Although they had long gone to painstaking lenghts to ensure they balanced their family and work lives, lately the pair had been pulled in separate directions. Pitt filmed Allied and War Machine overseas, while Jolie wrapped her latest directoral effort, First They Killed My Father, in Cambodia and continued her work for the United Nations' refugee agency. The insider who knows both stars says that Pitt made multiple solo trips to the couple's home in France, Chateau Miraval, following disagreements between the spouses: "They definitely spent more time apart this year, but it's still a shock."
Pitt himself was among those caught off guard by the timing, according to multiple people in their circle. "He got a heads-up [about the filing] two days before, and he was appealing to her to do this quietly - not to save the marriage but to consider the well-being of the children - and it was ignored," contends the Pitt source. "He is just wrecked by this." Pointing to other high-profile breakups, the source says that Jolie's divorce filing could have been handled less abruptly. "Look at Gwyeneth [Paltrow and Chris Martin], look at Ben [Affleck] and Jen [Garner], " says the Pitt source. "You go to that godforsaken island, you hunker down together, you grit your teeth, and you get through it. You don't do it this way." Pitt, the source adds, "is not going to go head-to-head with her. [___4___]
So what prompted Jolie to make the final break? Both sides quickly shot down rumours that Pitt was in any way involved with French actress Marion Cotillard, his costar in the upcoming drama Allied. "It's unfortunate if anybody tries to introduce negativity into what is already a very difficult and painful situation," says a Pitt source.
Even as the relationship hit rough patches - from the everyday stresses of raising a large family to the life-changing challenges of Jolie's two cancer-preventing surgeries - the pair appeared committed to working through their issues. "It was more like their was over and they entered a real marriage," says the insider. "The differences and arguments they had all seemed very normal." That included diverging parenting styles, with Brad taking a "stricter approach" to Angelina's "more relaxed attitude," says the source. "It never seemed it was a big deal. Brad and Angelina are both great, great parents. And their differences seemed to make them a great parent team."
But behind closed doors the relationship was quietly unraveling. "Things built and built over time - it wasn't any one thing," says the Jolie source. "She's loved this man for several years, and [divorce] is not something you do impulsively." The Pitt source concurs, citing "a series off issues and a cycle of disagreements," but says there was a final straw. "There was clearly a breaking point, where she'd just had enough," says the source. "He may have been broken himself and said he couldn't go on, and she reacted. This has been difficult for a while. Marriages are difficult especially when you're those two people, with those schedules and six children."
It's a far different life from the one each star had when they met in 2004 on the set of Mr. & Mrs. Smith. At the time, Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston and Jolie was twice divorced, from actors Tommy Lee Miller and Billy Bob Thornton. She was also a single mother to son Maddox, whom she adopted from Cambodia in 2003. They quickly bonded, and she later told Vogue that when the shoot wrapped in 2004 - Pitt and Aniston split early the next year - the pair realized that their connection "might mean something more than we'd earlier allowed ourselves to beleive."
Throughout the next decade the two A-listers grew their careers, their family and their fortune. (It's estimated at a combined $500 million.) With their time-zone-hopping adventures and their children's diverse backgrounds, they embodied both Hollywood fantasy and spirited sense of the modern American family. They gushed about the custom bed they built for all the kids to pile into, joked about Angelina's terrible cooking and embraced what they repeatedly described as the happy "chaos" of it all. "Brad's an extraordinary father," she told Magazine* in 2010. "We have each other's backs."
[___5___] (Pitt also supported her through the 2007 ovarian cancer death of her mother, Marcheline Bertrand, at age 56.) When they shot their 2015 drama By the Sea, which Jolie wrote and directed, about a couple whose marraiage was coming undone, she said that their own only strengthened them and that they both "appreciate the beauty in each other's changes...and look forward to even more years together." A year before, she had told Magazine*, "We've been through so much. We've gotten a lot closer, which I think naturally happens with raising a family together. You have history."
Now that history includes a heartbreaking final chapter - one both sides say is still being written. "They ultimately will try to find a dignified way to move forward," says the Pitt source. "He will always love her and wants to find a way to resolve this amicably, for the sake of their kids." Jolie feels the same. "She desperately cares about Brad," says a source close to her. "He's the father of her children." Adds a mutual friend of both stars: "She'll always love him. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, it doesn't work out, and it's so sad."
split= szakítás, válás
unraveling= tisztázás, megold(ód)ás
doesn't fit in= nem illik bele/oda/a képbe
to undergo= átesni valamin
double mastectomy= lásd ANGELINA JOLIE PREVENCIÓS MŰTÉTEK
ovaries and fallopian tubes= lásd ANGELINA JOLIE PREVENCIÓS MŰTÉTEK
irreconcilable differences= összeegyeztethetetlen, feloldhatatlan ellentétek
joint legal custody= közös jogi gyámság
to file for divorce= válókeresetet bead
to beg= könyörög
to reconcile= kibékít, kibékül
upheaval= felfordulás, megbolydulás
to be willing to do sg= hajlandó valamit megtenni
amicable= barátságos, baráti, szeretetteljes
chafed= ingerült, bosszús
divorce petition= válókereset
physical custody= fizikai gyámság, gyermekfelügyelet
visitation= láthatási jog
spousal support= házastársi támogatás
I am very saddened by this= ez nagyon elszomorít
unhappy-ever-after= a happily-ever-after ('és boldogan éltek, míg meg nem haltak') ellentéte
to show off= büszkélkedik, henceg, 'megvillant'
with effortless ease= erőlködésmentes könnyedséggel
on-set romance= forgatás alatt szövődött szerelem
to blossom= virágzik
fraught= terhes, megterhelő
had long gone to painstaking lenghts= korábban messzire mentek a gondosságban
to wrap= itt: befejezte a forgatást
was caught off guard= felkészületlenül/váratlanul érte, megdöbbentette
to appeal= kér, esdekel, könyörög
to ignore= figyelmen kívül hagy
wrecked= belerokkan, romokban hever(ő)
to hunker down= lenyugszik, leül, összehúzza magát
to grit your teeth= összeszorítja a fogát
costar= sztár kolléga közös produkcióban
upcoming= közelgő, soron következő, nemsokára aktuálissá váló
to raise a large family= sok gyereket nevelni
cancer-preventing surgeries= rák-megelőző műtétek
impulsively= fellobbanásból, hirtelenszerűen
a final straw= utolsó csepp a pohárban
schedule= munkarend, menetrend, időbeosztás
connection= vonzalom, kötődés LÁSD: SZERELMES ANGOL!
to estimate= felbecsül, megbecsül
to embody= megtestesít
to gush about= áradozik vmiről
to pile= halomban hever, púposodva magasodik
to come undone= szétesik, összeomlik, tönkremegy
heartbreaking final chapter= szívszorító utolsó fejezet
a dignified way= méltóságteljes módon
a mutual friend= közös barát
no matter how= nem számít, mennyire
(Article adapted from the American Press)
All around her, guys wave seductively, beckoning her to their beach homes.  By the quality of his lodging, the allure of his wave - and, especially the size of his claw.
The female fiddler crab has two small, symmetrical claws; the male has one small and one oversize. "The large claw is all about the initial attraction," says marine biologist Zachary Darnell of Louisiana's Nicholls State University.  "Maybe a crab with a large claw relative to his body size , and a bit higher wave than others" - because if he can tote and swing a claw that's up to half his body weight, he's probably a physically fit sire.
After the pair has sex in the beach burrow, the female stays there while her eggs develop; the male goes back to waving and often brings home other females.  It's a thermoregulator, as air passing over it seems to dissipate heat and lower body temperature.
A big claw is also the male crab's best weapon:  After a few weeks, the pregnant females will emerge from that love lair and head for the waterline, where they'll release their larvae.
A- After checking out several males and the love-nest burrows they've dug, a female "will find a male whose claw she really likes," he says.
B- He uses it to fight rivals and keep intruders away from his burrow.
C- When it comes to claws, right-handed attracts the females.
D- How will a female fiddler crab pick a mate?
E- On the hot sand, his claw is more than just a chick magnet, Darell's research has found.
Olvasd el a cikket és oldd meg a szöveg végén az IGAZ/HAMIS állításos feladatot. Ha a szöveg szerint a mondat helyes, TRUE-val jelöld, ha nem, FALSE-ként értékeld.
Roughly a fifth of Britons regularly go out on even the hottest and sunniest days of the year without sunscreen. Given that, it is hardly surprising that a recent survey by Nivea found that around 80 per cent of us have been sunburnt in the past.
Yet quiz the same people about the negative effects of sun exposure and they are likely to be able to list them. It is certainly no secret that spending too much time in the sun causes premature ageing, not to mention the danger sunburn presents to long-term health. Rates of malignant melanoma - the deadliest form of skin cancer - are disproportionately high in younger people and the disease is almost twice as common in young women as it is in similarly aged men.
"Sunburn is an acute reaction in the skin that follows excessive overexposure to ultraviolet (UV) radiation. It causes direct damage to DNA, resulting in inflammation and death of skin cells," explains consultant dermatologist and British Skin Foundation spokesperson Dr Anjali Mahto. "The risk is higher in equatorial areas or at altitude , particularly in those with fair skin types. Sunburn in childhood or adolescence can double the risk of developing melanoma in later life.
Keeping yourself safe is simple, however. Dermatologist Dr Stefanie Williams, founder and medical director at private clinic European Dermatology London, has some straight-talking advice for preventing sunburn. "If you are serious about keeping your skin in top shape, sunscreen should be worn on a daily basis, even here in the UK," she says. "While you might not get sunburnt, your skin can still be exposed to significant amounts of UVA without even noticing. Used regularly, sunscreen even allows the skin to repair some of the existing damage.
"In a hot climate you must reapply every two hours and always apply liberally. For the best defence, I recommend a broad-spectrum protection with SPF (UVB) 30-50 and high UVA protection, plus sun avoidance, of course.
Cancer research UK is also keen to get the message across and has joined forces with Nivea to encourage people to be more sun safe. It recommends taking the following steps, which together make up the easy to remember CARE acronym:
1. C - COVER UP: Wear a T-shirt, hat and sunglasses.
2. A - AIM FOR SHADE: Stay out of the sun between the hours of 11am to 3pm in the UK.
3. R - RUB ON SUNSCREEN: Use plenty, with at least an SPF15 and a 4-star rating.
4. E - ENJOY: Have fun in the sun safely.
But what action can you take if you accidentally overdo it in the sun? According to Dr Mahto, here are the dos and don'ts for
1. POP A PILL: "Painkillers can help relieve the pain and reduce inflammation caused by sunburn. Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs such as ibuprofen are ideal and should be continued for a period of at least 48 hours if there are no contraindications. Paracetamol will help with pain, but has little effect on inflammation."
2. COOL DOWN: "Apply a cool compress to the skin - you could try a towel dampened with cool water - for fifteen minutes. Or take a cool bath or shower. Aim to keep the temperature just below lukewarm and make sure the shower has a gentle flow of water, rather than being on full power. If blisters are starting to develop the a bath is preferable to a shower. Do not rub your skin with a towel; instead gently pat it dry when you get out.
3. SOOTHE YOUR SKIN: "After a bath or shower, use an unperfumed cream or lotion to soothe the skin. Repeated applications are necessary to reduce the appearance of peeling and you may need to continue repeat applications for several weeks. Aloe vera is a good choice; it not only has a cooling effect on the skin but also acts as an anti-inflammatory."
4. TRY A STEROID CREAM: "Using a weak steroid cream such as 0.5-1 per cent hydrocortisone for 48 hours may decrease pain and swelling caused by sunburn and speed up the healing process. This is best avoided in small children, however."
5. DO NOT POP: "Leave blisters alone. Try not to pop them, as this can lead to infection and scarring. They will settle by themselves after a few days. In the meantime, treat the skin gently.
(Adapted from the British Press)
1. British people are not at risk of getting sunburnt.
2. People in Britain get sunburnt because they don't know about the harmful effects of sunlight.
3. The worst type of skin cancer is more frequent among women than men.
4. Malignant melanoma occurs at young age.
5. Getting sunburnt is more likely if you have lighter skin.
6. It is only necessary to put on sunscreen when the sun is shining.
7. In the acronym CARE the letters stand for Cream to Avoid Radiation Exposure.
8. In hot climate you have to apply sunscreen twice a day.
9. In case you start having blisters, it is best to have a cold bath.
10. You must never pop your blisters or else they will still be visible after healing.
sunscreen= naptej, napolaj
sun exposure= napsugárzásnak való kitettség
premature ageing= korai öregedés
malignant melanoma= fekete bőrrák
skin cancer= bőrrák
excessive overexposure= túlzott kitettség a napnak/napsugárzásnak
(UV) radiation= ultraibolya sugárzás
damage to DNA= DNS károsodás
skin cells= bőrsejtek
fair skin types= világos bőrtípusok
risk of developing= kialakulásának kockázata/veszélye
preventing sunburn= napégés megakadályozása/megelőzése
keeping your skin in top shape= csúcsformában tartani a bőrt
on a daily basis= napi szinten
reapply= újra felvisz/beken
apply liberally= bőségesen visz fel (krémet)
broad-spectrum protection= széles spektrumú védelem
SPF= sun protection factor= naptej faktorszáma
UVB= ultraviolet B (short-wave)= közepes hullámhosszú ultraibolya sugár
UVA= ultraviolet A (long-wave)= nagy hullámhosszú ultraibolya sugár
sun avoidance= nap elkerülése
sun safe= napvédett
COVER UP= takard be magad
AIM FOR SHADE= igyekezz az árnyékba
RUB ON SUNSCREEN= dörzsölj be naptejet
overdo it in the sun= túl sok időt tölt a napon
dos and don'ts= tanácsok arra, hogy mit tegyünk és mit ne
TREATING SUNBURN= napégés kezelése
POP A PILL= tolj be egy pirulát
relieve the pain= enyhíti a fájdalmat
reduce inflammation= csökkenti a gyulladást
anti-inflammatory drugs= gyulladáscsökkentő gyógyszerek
COOL DOWN= hűtsd le
apply compress to the skin= gyakorolj nyomást a bőrre
a towel dampened with cool water= hideg vízben megnedvesített törölköző
gentle flow= gyenge folyás
rub your skin= dörzsöli a bőrt
pat it dry= felitatja a nedvességet gyengéd ütögetéssel
SOOTHE YOUR SKIN= nyugtasd meg a bőröd
unperfumed cream or lotion= illatmentes krém vagy testápoló
Repeated applications= ismételt felvitel (krémé)
TRY A STEROID CREAM= próbálj egy szteroidos krémet
decrease pain and swelling= csökkenti a fájdalmat és a püffedtséget
speed up the healing process= felgyorsítja a gyógyulási folyamatot
DO NOT POP= ne nyomd ki
infection and scarring= fertőzés és hegesegés
settle= megnyugszik, visszahúzódik, lelapul
treat the skin gently= bánj gyengéden a bőröddel